SOS Tools
Kimochis to the Rescue for Challenging BehaviorsBehaviors At-A-Glance
You will need the Feel Guide (available in our Tool Kits and sold separately) for the lessons listed below.
- Inclusion
- Exclusion
- Teasing
- Bossiness
- Hurtfulness
- Impulsiveness
- Standing Up (for Self)
- Standing Up (for Others)
- Sharing Experiences
- Problem-Solving
- Problem-Solving (cont'd)
- Need Help At Play
- Working In Partners
- Asking for Help
- Trying New Things
- Help Apologizing
- Help Forgiving
- Help (Nonverbal Language)
- Help (Understanding & Expressing Feelings)
- Being Honest
- Being Tolerant
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Be inclusive |
ECE: Left Out 1, 2 ECE: Happy 1, 5 Brave: Compassionate and Kind 1 Left Out: Compassionate and Kind 3, 4 |
90 74 157 170,171
|
Getting included |
Left Out: Resilient 2 ECE: Left Out 1 |
167 90 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Being excluded |
ECE: Mad 3 Left Out: Resilient 1 |
82 165
|
Pressure to exclude others |
Left Out: Responsible 2 |
164 |
Student is worried of being excluded again |
Left Out: Responsible 3 |
168 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Being teased |
Key 3: Activity 6 Sad: Resilient 2 Brave: Respectful 2 |
35 137 150
|
Silliness is hurtful |
Silly: Compassionate and Kind 1 |
180 |
Observing teasing |
Silly: Compassionate and Kind 2, 3 |
180 181 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Friends boss or yell |
Key 2: Activity 2 ECE: Cranky 2 |
31 106
|
Student uses bossy talk |
ECE: Cranky 1 Cranky: Responsible 1 |
106 205 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Dealing with getting a mean look |
Key 3: Activity 3 |
34
|
Re-do a hurtful moment |
Mad: Responsible 4 |
144 |
When friends brag |
Proud: Respectful 1 |
221 |
Responding to bragging |
Proud: Resilient 1 |
222 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Accidentally speaking before thinking |
Proud: Resilient 1 |
222
|
Friends make unsafe choices |
Curious: Responsible 1 |
197 |
Friends distract others |
ECE: Silly 3 |
94 |
Friends get too silly and/or rough |
ECE: Silly 1 ECE: Frustrated 3 Silly: Respectful 1, 2 |
94 98 176, 177 |
Students get too close |
ECE: Silly 2 Silly: Responsible 2 |
94 178 |
Students get too silly |
Silly: Respectful 2 |
177 |
Friends need to calm down |
Silly: Compassionate and Kind 1 |
180 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Find your voice and set a boundary |
Key 3; Activity 5 Mad: Responsible 2 |
35 143
|
Recover after given a mean look |
Key 3: Activity 3 |
34 |
Respond when someone grabs |
Mad: Responsible 5 |
144 |
Be assertive when silliness gets hurtful |
Silly: Compassionate and Kind 3 |
181 |
Comfort self when feeling negative emotions |
ECE: Sad 2 |
78 |
Send a strong, serious message |
Mad: Responsible 2 |
143 |
Express opinions and beliefs |
Happy: Respectful 1 |
126 |
Signal that teasing is not funny |
Silly: Compassionate and Kind 3 |
181 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Witnessing exclusion |
Left Out: Responsible 1 |
164 |
Pressured to exclude others |
Left Out: Responsible 2 |
164 |
Friends needing comfort or encouragement |
Hopeful: Compassionate and Kind 2, 3 |
215 |
Observing teasing |
Silly: Compassionate and Kind 2 |
180 |
Friend is shut down by other’s bragging |
Proud: Compassionate and Kind 3 |
224 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Wait for a friend |
ECE: Happy 2 |
74 |
Share with friends |
ECE: Happy 3 |
74 |
Celebrate a friend’s accomplishments |
Proud: Responsible 1 Proud: Compassionate and Kind 1, 2 |
221 223 |
Celebrate your own accomplishments |
Proud: Compassionate and Kind 2 |
223 |
Give and receive compliments |
Happy: Compassionate and Kind 2 Proud: Responsible 1 ECE: Proud 1, 2 |
129 221 114 |
Encourage friends when feeling sad/bad/mad |
ECE: Hopeful 1 |
110 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Calm and manage anger |
Mad: Respectful 1 Mad: Responsibility 1, 2 |
142 142, 143 |
Use a talking tone of voice |
Key 2: Activity 1 |
30 |
Manage friends who cut in line, block your view |
Key 1: Activity 5 ECE Frustrated 1, 2 |
29 98 |
Manage friends who get too close |
ECE: Frustrated 3 |
98 |
Manage friends who don’t share toys/materials |
ECE: Happy 1 ECE: Mad 2 |
74 82 |
Manage friends who grab or take things from you |
Key 3: Activity 4 ECE: Mad 4 |
34 82 |
Manage friends who don’t take turns |
ECE: Mad 1 |
82 |
Manage friends who hug too much |
ECE: Frustrated 4 |
99 |
Handle yourself when feelings get the best of you |
Key 5: Activity 2 |
39 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Not take things personally |
Happy: Resilient 1 Curious: Respectful 1 |
127 196 |
Manage unkindness |
Key 2: Activity 2 |
31 |
Politely decline comfort or help from friends |
Sad: Respect 1 Mad: Compassionate and Kind 1 |
134 145 |
Use self-talk to manage frustration/difficulties |
Hopeful: Resilient 1 |
214 |
Use tools to manage sadness |
ECE: Sad 2 |
78 |
Make choices that support learning |
Silly: Responsible 1 |
177 |
Help friends make safe and kind choices |
ECE: Curious 2 |
102 |
Manage moods |
Cranky: Resilient 1 Hopeful: Resilient 2 |
205 214 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Gain attention in a positive way before speaking |
Key 1: Activity 3 |
28 |
Read body language to keep play positive |
Silly: Resilient 2 |
179 |
Manage friends who play too rough or silly |
ECE: Silly 1 Silly: Resilient 1 |
94 179 |
Be creative and imaginative in play |
ECE: Curious 1 |
102 |
Play safe and kind |
ECE: Curious 2 |
102 |
Be kind and friendly and share |
ECE: Happy 3 |
74 |
Take turns |
ECE: Happy 4 |
74 |
Wait for friends |
ECE: Happy 2 |
74 |
Keep play fun for everyone |
Curious: Respectful 1 |
196 |
Appreciate kindness |
ECE: Proud 2 |
114 |
Encourage friends |
ECE: Hopeful 1 Hopeful Compassionate and Kind 2 |
110 215 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Choosing partners |
Left Out: Respectful 2 |
162 |
Assigned a partner you might not want to be with |
Left Out: Respectful 1 |
162 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Get adult help |
Brave: Compassionate and Kind 2 ECE: Sad 3 |
157 78 |
Tell, not tattle |
Left Out: Resilient 1 |
165 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Use optimistic self-talk |
Happy: Resilient 1 Mad: Resilient 1 Sad: Responsible 1 Hopeful: Resilient 1 |
127 145 135 214 |
Try new things when feeling reluctant |
ECE: Brave 1 |
86 |
Persevere when frustrated |
Frustrated: Resilient 1, 2, 3 |
188 189 190 |
Recover after making mistakes |
Frustrated: Resilient 4 |
190 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Listen to how you may have created hurt feelings |
Key 4: Activity 3 |
37 |
Apologize |
Key 5: Activity 1 Key 5: Activity 3 Mad: Responsible 4 Sad: Responsible 2 Silly: Compassionate and Kind 4 Curious: Resilient 1 |
38 40 144 136 181 198 |
Deal with insincere apologies |
Key 6: Activity 2 |
41 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Forgive |
Key 6: Activity 1 Brave: Resilient 2 |
41 155 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Read body language |
Key 3: Activity 2 Frustrated: Responsible 2 |
32 187 |
Use facial expression that matches feeling |
Key 3: Activity 2 Frustrated: Responsible 3 |
32 188 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Name a feeling |
Frustrated: Responsible 1 |
186 |
Recognize mixed feelings |
Sad: Resilient 1 |
136 |
Consider others’ feelings |
Happy: Responsibility 1 |
126 |
Share feelings |
ECE; Sad 2, 3 |
78 |
Verify that you are understanding others feelings |
Key 3: Activity 2 |
32 |
Show compassion when you see upset feelings |
Happy: Compassionate and Kind 1 Mad: Compassionate and Kind 3 Frustrated: Compassionate and Kind 1 |
129 146 191 |
Choose a better attitude, assume the best |
Key 3: Activity 1 Left Out: Resilient 3 |
32 168 |
Listen to friends’ upset feelings toward you |
Mad: Compassionate and Kind 2 |
145 |
Request privacy and alone time |
Hopeful: Respect 1 |
212 |
Choose hopeful thoughts |
Hopeful: Responsible 1 |
213 |
Offer comfort and support to a friend |
ECE: Sad 1 Hopeful: Compassionate and Kind 1 |
78 215 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Answer honestly |
ECE: Brave 2 Brave: Responsible 1 |
86 151 |
Admit your mistakes |
Brave: Responsible 2 |
152 |
Recover after telling a lie |
Brave: Responsible 3 |
153 |
WHAT TO SAY AND DO... | LESSON | FEEL GUIDE PAGE |
Tolerant and understanding |
Key 7: Activity 1 |
42 |
Considerate of and interested in others |
Curious: Compassionate and Kind 1, 2 |
199 |
Kind/respectful when others feel emotional |
Cranky: Compassionate and Kind 1, 2 |
206 207 |