SOS Tools

Kimochis to the Rescue for Challenging Behaviors

Behaviors At-A-Glance

You will need the Feel Guide (available in our Tool Kits and sold separately) for the lessons listed below.

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Be inclusive

ECE: Left Out 1, 2

ECE: Happy 1, 5

Brave: Compassionate and Kind 1

Left Out: Compassionate and Kind 3, 4

90

74

157

170,171

Getting included

Left Out: Resilient 2

ECE: Left Out 1

167

90

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Being excluded

ECE: Mad 3

Left Out: Resilient 1

82

165

Pressure to exclude others

Left Out: Responsible 2

164

Student is worried of being excluded again

Left Out: Responsible 3

168

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Being teased

Key 3: Activity 6

Sad: Resilient 2

Brave: Respectful 2

35

137

150

Silliness is hurtful

Silly: Compassionate and Kind 1

180

Observing teasing

Silly: Compassionate and Kind 2, 3

180

181

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Friends boss or yell

Key 2: Activity 2

ECE: Cranky 2

31

106

Student uses bossy talk

ECE: Cranky 1

Cranky: Responsible 1

106

205

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Dealing with getting a mean look

Key 3: Activity 3

34

Re-do a hurtful moment

Mad: Responsible 4

144

When friends brag

Proud: Respectful 1

221

Responding to bragging

Proud: Resilient 1

222

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Accidentally speaking before thinking

Proud: Resilient 1

222

Friends make unsafe choices

Curious: Responsible 1

197

Friends distract others

ECE: Silly 3

94

Friends get too silly and/or rough

ECE: Silly 1

ECE: Frustrated 3

Silly: Respectful 1, 2

94

98

176, 177

Students get too close

ECE: Silly 2

Silly: Responsible 2

94

178

Students get too silly

Silly: Respectful 2

177

Friends need to calm down

Silly: Compassionate and Kind 1

180

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Find your voice and set a boundary

Key 3; Activity 5

Mad: Responsible 2

35

143

Recover after given a mean look

Key 3: Activity 3

34

Respond when someone grabs

Mad: Responsible 5

144

Be assertive when silliness gets hurtful

Silly: Compassionate and Kind 3

181

Comfort self when feeling negative emotions

ECE: Sad 2

78

Send a strong, serious message

Mad: Responsible 2

143

Express opinions and beliefs

Happy: Respectful 1

126

Signal that teasing is not funny

Silly: Compassionate and Kind 3

181

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Witnessing exclusion

Left Out: Responsible 1

164

Pressured to exclude others

Left Out: Responsible 2

164

Friends needing comfort or encouragement

Hopeful: Compassionate and Kind 2, 3

215

Observing teasing

Silly: Compassionate and Kind 2

180

Friend is shut down by other’s bragging

Proud: Compassionate and Kind 3

224

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Wait for a friend

ECE: Happy 2

74

Share with friends

ECE: Happy 3

74

Celebrate a friend’s accomplishments

Proud: Responsible 1

Proud: Compassionate and Kind 1, 2

221

223

Celebrate your own accomplishments

Proud: Compassionate and Kind 2

223

Give and receive compliments

Happy: Compassionate and Kind 2

Proud: Responsible 1

ECE: Proud 1, 2

129

221

114

Encourage friends when feeling sad/bad/mad

ECE: Hopeful 1

110

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Calm and manage anger

Mad: Respectful 1

Mad: Responsibility 1, 2

142

142, 143

Use a talking tone of voice

Key 2: Activity 1

30

Manage friends who cut in line, block your view

Key 1: Activity 5

ECE Frustrated 1, 2

29

98

Manage friends who get too close

ECE: Frustrated 3

98

Manage friends who don’t share toys/materials

ECE: Happy 1

ECE: Mad 2

74

82

Manage friends who grab or take things from you

Key 3: Activity 4

ECE: Mad 4

34

82

Manage friends who don’t take turns

ECE: Mad 1

82

Manage friends who hug too much

ECE: Frustrated 4

99

Handle yourself when feelings get the best of you

Key 5: Activity 2

39

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Not take things personally

Happy: Resilient 1

Curious: Respectful 1

127

196

Manage unkindness

Key 2: Activity 2

31

Politely decline comfort or help from friends

Sad: Respect 1

Mad: Compassionate and Kind 1

134

145

Use self-talk to manage frustration/difficulties

Hopeful: Resilient 1

214

Use tools to manage sadness

ECE: Sad 2

78

Make choices that support learning

Silly: Responsible 1

177

Help friends make safe and kind choices

ECE: Curious 2

102

Manage moods

Cranky: Resilient 1

Hopeful: Resilient 2

205

214

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Gain attention in a positive way before speaking

Key 1: Activity 3

28

Read body language to keep play positive

Silly: Resilient 2

179

Manage friends who play too rough or silly

ECE: Silly 1

Silly: Resilient 1

94

179

Be creative and imaginative in play

ECE: Curious 1

102

Play safe and kind

ECE: Curious 2

102

Be kind and friendly and share

ECE: Happy 3

74

Take turns

ECE: Happy 4

74

Wait for friends

ECE: Happy 2

74

Keep play fun for everyone

Curious: Respectful 1

196

Appreciate kindness

ECE: Proud 2

114

Encourage friends

ECE: Hopeful 1

Hopeful Compassionate and Kind 2

110

215

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Choosing partners

Left Out: Respectful 2

162

Assigned a partner you might not want to be with

Left Out: Respectful 1

162

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Get adult help

Brave: Compassionate and Kind 2

ECE: Sad 3

157

78

Tell, not tattle

Left Out: Resilient 1

165

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Use optimistic self-talk

Happy: Resilient 1

Mad: Resilient 1

Sad: Responsible 1

Hopeful: Resilient 1

127

145

135

214

Try new things when feeling reluctant

ECE: Brave 1

86

Persevere when frustrated

Frustrated: Resilient 1, 2, 3

188

189

190

Recover after making mistakes

Frustrated: Resilient 4

190

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Listen to how you may have created hurt feelings

Key 4: Activity 3

37

Apologize

Key 5: Activity 1

Key 5: Activity 3

Mad: Responsible 4

Sad: Responsible 2

Silly: Compassionate and Kind 4

Curious: Resilient 1

38

40

144

136

181

198

Deal with insincere apologies

Key 6: Activity 2

41

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Forgive

Key 6: Activity 1

Brave: Resilient 2

41

155

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Read body language

Key 3: Activity 2

Frustrated: Responsible 2

32

187

Use facial expression that matches feeling

Key 3: Activity 2

Frustrated: Responsible 3

32

188

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Name a feeling

Frustrated: Responsible 1

186

Recognize mixed feelings

Sad: Resilient 1

136

Consider others’ feelings

Happy: Responsibility 1

126

Share feelings

ECE; Sad 2, 3

78

Verify that you are understanding others feelings

Key 3: Activity 2

32

Show compassion when you see upset feelings

Happy: Compassionate and Kind 1

Mad: Compassionate and Kind 3

Frustrated: Compassionate and Kind 1

129

146

191

Choose a better attitude, assume the best

Key 3: Activity 1

Left Out: Resilient 3

32

168

Listen to friends’ upset feelings toward you

Mad: Compassionate and Kind 2

145

Request privacy and alone time

Hopeful: Respect 1

212

Choose hopeful thoughts

Hopeful: Responsible 1

213

Offer comfort and support to a friend

ECE: Sad 1

Hopeful: Compassionate and Kind 1

78

215

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Answer honestly

ECE: Brave 2

Brave: Responsible 1

86

151

Admit your mistakes

Brave: Responsible 2

152

Recover after telling a lie

Brave: Responsible 3

153

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Tolerant and understanding

Key 7: Activity 1

42

Considerate of and interested in others

Curious: Compassionate and Kind 1, 2

199

Kind/respectful when others feel emotional

Cranky: Compassionate and Kind 1, 2

206

207